Tantra is as much about mindset as it is about technique. In fact, one could argue that it’s all about your mindset. If you are truly interested in tantra and all of its benefits (not just the sex stuff,) you have to make room for it in your life. You have to give yourself some breathing room, physically and psychologically.

Start with these basics to help free some physical and emotional space in your life. Then, when you’re ready, you can fill that space with positive, fulfilling principles of tantra.

1.       Stop with all the “should’s.” You know the stuff I’m talking about. ‘I should be cleaning the house,’ ‘I should be working on this…or that,’ ‘I should be doing this…,’ ‘I should be thinking about that…’ Just stop it. Every time you think of something you should be doing, but aren’t, you stop living in the present moment. We all have things we need to accomplish to be functioning, responsible adults, this is true. But, when you spend all of your time focusing on I should’s, you miss out on all the I am’s.

2.       Get rid of physical clutter. Walk through your house. Does it feel open and free, or piled up and crammed in? Knick-knacks and bric-a-brac are fine, especially if it’s stuff you love to look at and enjoy. However, clutter creates both physical and emotional barriers. If you can’t bear the idea of parting with your clutter, at least put it up somewhere to free some physical space around you. You’ll be surprised what it can do for your psyche.

3.       Take a long, honest look at your schedule. In today’s hustle-bustle world, it’s easy to get overwhelmed with stuff to do. But, think about this: Does everything on your daily to-do list bring you joy? Sure, there are some necessities, like running errands or doing laundry, that probably don’t, but we’re talking about the things you can actually change. Eliminate anything in your regular schedule that doesn’t bring you joy or a feeling of accomplishment. Freeing time, like eliminating clutter, can do wonders for your mental breathing room.