Tantra is as much about mindset as it is about technique. In fact, one could argue that it’s all about your mindset. If you are truly interested in tantra and all of its benefits (not just the sex stuff,) you have to make room for it in your life. You have to give yourself some breathing room, physically and psychologically.

Start with these basics to help free some physical and emotional space in your life. Then, when you’re ready, you can fill that space with positive, fulfilling principles of tantra.

1.       Stop with all the “should’s.” You know the stuff I’m talking about. ‘I should be cleaning the house,’ ‘I should be working on this…or that,’ ‘I should be doing this…,’ ‘I should be thinking about that…’ Just stop it. Every time you think of something you should be doing, but aren’t, you stop living in the present moment. We all have things we need to accomplish to be functioning, responsible adults, this is true. But, when you spend all of your time focusing on I should’s, you miss out on all the I am’s.